If I am a bit quiet. . .

HBS Guy

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Well, had services for Dad and, almost exactly 30 years later, a service for Mum. Sad, yes, but you get closure as Jim said.

Yeah, my Mum feared going into a nursing home, I said it would be the VERY last resort I would turn to. If she had lived a few months longer the dementia would have necessitated the nursing home.
 

greggerypeccary

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Well, had services for Dad and, almost exactly 30 years later, a service for Mum. Sad, yes, but you get closure as Jim said.

Yeah, my Mum feared going into a nursing home, I said it would be the VERY last resort I would turn to. If she had lived a few months longer the dementia would have necessitated the nursing home.
I'm not much for the "closure" thing.

I watched Dad pass away as I held his hand - I know he's gone.

Nobody in my family wants a service, and I'm more than happy with that.
 

greggerypeccary

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Hope nobody in your family steals family photos etc.
I have the couple of photos I want, and there's nothing else to steal really.

Mum and Dad have no assets at all - just the small amount of money in their bank accounts.

Thankfully, when Mum finally goes, I won't be fighting over anything.

One of the good things about being relatively poor :)
 

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I came back from a disappointing trip to Tas, sat here “Ah, {fave niece} wants this photo” and wandered over to mantlepiece “Now, where is that photo. . .?” only to realise ALL the photos on the mantlepiece were gone! So were some albums, so was my jade hair pin so was. . . . . .

Not the best night of my life. A Dutch cookbook I had bought my own copy of, had shown () the book and the invoice I had glued to the inside front cover. Fuck it, I did that thinking it would make the post funeral divvying up of stuff easier, fucking idiot dreamer. Some jade pieces, none of much value—gone!

A sister helped me get back some lo-res copies of photos, a cousin in Holland got me some other photos but STILL some dear loved ones are gone!



If you have some person near to you dying—parent or sibling or, so help me, child—take care that precious mementoes are safe.

Yes, I have heard that when one family member cares for another for a long time—the title to the property of the one looked after is often found to be now the property of the carer. Aussie can vouch to some fears I had but happily nothing that gross happened.

Unfortunately, deaths do not bring out the best in everyone! There is one night of my life I do NOT want to repeat!
 

greggerypeccary

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Good luck tomorrow. Whilst it might be hard to see right now, you'll get through it.


Glad to hear your mum is doing better.
Cheers.

It's done - Dad's body is gone.

I'm devastated. In complete denial.

Mum is doing very well today.

The local pharmacy is going to visit her at home next week and help her sort out her meds.

I fully expect COVID to take her in the next few weeks though - she's unvaccinated and has serious cardio/pulmonary problems.

Fuck you, 2022.
 
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