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Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 15 Jan 2018, 14:18

The man who received death threats for taking his wife's surname

When Sydney-sider Grant Phillips announced on Facebook that he'd changed his name to his wife's after they got married he wasn't expecting to be turned into an international news headline.

Phillips had thought he was just making a fairly innocuous status update to let his friends know that it was still him, but it prompted a flurry of media attention across the globe, from Ireland to the United States.

And an avalanche of abuse by strangers wishing his violent death.

"Go kill yourself", wrote one man to Phillips.

Another man was more specific about his hopes for his death. "I hope you and your whore die in a car crash so that your genes don't continue".

Others wished infertility on him and his wife. "I hope your wife can't have kids, that'll be god's way of punishing you".

Phillips and his wife had not planned to make a political statement with their name change decision.

"My wife has no male cousins and is the last in her family's lineage with the name of Phillips, so it would die out after her", said Phillips via email. "I was completely taken by surprise that in 2017 this was something that was making noise".

People like to pretend that the decision to change your name after marriage is a purely personal choice — no more controversial than, say, the decision to get married in Summer or Spring or in a church or a garden.

But this is only the case if couples make the conventional "choice" and the woman changes her name.

Even if women make the "free" and "personal" choice not to take their husband's name after marriage, research tells us that this decision affects the couple's perceived status, with people assuming that the man is weak and the woman is a ball-breaker.

If, like Grant Phillips and his wife, couples subvert the convention even further with the man taking the woman's name, well then they better bunker down for the brutal backlash.

Why would these men — and yes all the abusive messages sent to Phillips were written by men — take time out of their day, and waste the keystrokes and the blood vessels abusing someone they don't know for doing something that doesn't affect them?

Because to men who cling to the ideals of toxic masculinity, Phillips decision is a direct attack on their identity as a man. It represents nothing less than an existential threat to the men who have built their identity and self-worth on their relative dominance over women.

Names hold power and when Phillips took his wife's name he was relinquishing a slice of traditional male power.

Why else would the men ask questions like: "Do you get your period too mate?" and conclude: "Even your Facebook is feminine".

Men who have been inculcated into a culture of toxic masculinity need to regularly top up their King Dick Metre, which can only be fuelled by the disempowerment of someone else. And that someone else is very often a woman.

Their feelings of strength only come when someone else is in a position of weakness. They can only feel valid when they are able to invalidate someone else. They only feel like they have won when someone else has lost.

That domination can take many forms, from domestic violence, financial abuse, sexual harassment, the gender pay gap, and yes, the insistence that wives must take their husband's names.

The good news is that there is a growing number of men who, like Phillips, have rejected the rules of toxic masculinity. They realise that strength isn't defined by or dependent on dominating others. And they know that taking your wife's surname can be a form of self-assertion rather than weakness.

If nothing else, the backlash that Phillips experienced in response to his decision is a sign that toxic masculinity is under attack. After all, if our current idea of masculinity is so fragile that it is threatened by what someone else choose to call themselves, then hopefully it won't be long before the whole thing crumbles under its own toxic mass.


http://www.theage.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/the-man-who-received-death-threats-for-taking-his-wifes-surname-20180114-h0i6zv.html
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby johnsmith » 15 Jan 2018, 15:12

astonishing the things that people work themselves up in a tizzy about .....



those people should get their own life instead of getting hysterical over what some stranger wants to call himself.
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 15 Jan 2018, 15:16

johnsmith wrote:astonishing the things that people work themselves up in a tizzy about .....



those people should get their own life instead of getting hysterical over what some stranger wants to call himself.



Amazing, isn't it? Such precious little egos.
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby MilesAway » 16 Jan 2018, 14:14

People get death threats all the Time!

Looks like just another article looking to inflame the world with the femo Nazi bulldust called ‘toxic masculinity’ to me!

Why does Mothra bother?
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby MilesAway » 16 Jan 2018, 14:17

I know :gsp

Mothra just wants to get a little dramatic conversation going that she can finish with the ‘little’ dagger!

:WTF

(Yeh, I know: make sure you keep it a secret or she might leave her house and make the world cross the road :yellow )
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 16 Jan 2018, 14:24

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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby MilesAway » 16 Jan 2018, 14:48

Who the fuck is syd Barrett :roll
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 16 Jan 2018, 14:50

MilesAway wrote:Who the fuck is syd Barrett :roll



Just someone i castrated earlier. For demonstration purposes.
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby MilesAway » 16 Jan 2018, 15:48

mothra wrote:
MilesAway wrote:Who the fuck is syd Barrett :roll



Just someone i castrated earlier. For demonstration purposes.

Yay :yellow

Go the dullness of death yay :beer
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 16 Jan 2018, 18:58

MilesAway wrote:
mothra wrote:
MilesAway wrote:Who the fuck is syd Barrett :roll



Just someone i castrated earlier. For demonstration purposes.

Yay :yellow

Go the dullness of death yay :beer



Now don't be silly. Castrating isn't the end of a man's life. They make great pets afterwards.
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby johnsmith » 16 Jan 2018, 19:15

mothra wrote:Castrating isn't the end of a man's life.


yes it bloody well is.
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 16 Jan 2018, 19:18

johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:Castrating isn't the end of a man's life.


yes it bloody well is.


Pffft. You can still catch spiders and lift heavy things, no?
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby johnsmith » 16 Jan 2018, 19:25

mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:Castrating isn't the end of a man's life.


yes it bloody well is.


Pffft. You can still catch spiders and lift heavy things, no?

that's just it, we can't ..... the continuous stream of tears will prevent us seeing the spiders or even what needs lifting
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 16 Jan 2018, 19:28

johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:Castrating isn't the end of a man's life.


yes it bloody well is.


Pffft. You can still catch spiders and lift heavy things, no?

that's just it, we can't ..... the continuous stream of tears will prevent us seeing the spiders or even what needs lifting


I bathe in male tears ... fortunately. Would you stand over the bath while you have a sook? Ta.
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby johnsmith » 16 Jan 2018, 21:22

mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:Castrating isn't the end of a man's life.


yes it bloody well is.


Pffft. You can still catch spiders and lift heavy things, no?

that's just it, we can't ..... the continuous stream of tears will prevent us seeing the spiders or even what needs lifting


I bathe in male tears ... fortunately. Would you stand over the bath while you have a sook? Ta.


why didn't you put that proposition to me before you cut my balls off? :purple
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 17 Jan 2018, 13:51

johnsmith wrote:
why didn't you put that proposition to me before you cut my balls off? :purple



Where's the fun in that?
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby johnsmith » 17 Jan 2018, 13:54

mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
why didn't you put that proposition to me before you cut my balls off? :purple



Where's the fun in that?


from where I'm sitting there's no fun to be had AFTER
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 17 Jan 2018, 13:57

johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
why didn't you put that proposition to me before you cut my balls off? :purple



Where's the fun in that?


from where I'm sitting there's no fun to be had AFTER



You can keep your balls if you elect to live in the men's community, growing our food and nice flowers. We'll round up a few of you every month to service us for the continuation of the species.

Otherwise, it's balls off and house boy for you.
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby johnsmith » 17 Jan 2018, 14:04

mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
why didn't you put that proposition to me before you cut my balls off? :purple



Where's the fun in that?


from where I'm sitting there's no fun to be had AFTER



You can keep your balls if you elect to live in the men's community, growing our food and nice flowers. We'll round up a few of you every month to service us for the continuation of the species.

Otherwise, it's balls off and house boy for you.



that sounds pretty much like my life now :rofl :rofl :rofl :rofl
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 17 Jan 2018, 14:09

Oh yes. It has begun.
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby johnsmith » 17 Jan 2018, 14:21

mothra wrote:Oh yes. It has begun.


no, it began about 10.5 yrs ago ....



about the same day I got married. :bgrin
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby MilesAway » 17 Jan 2018, 16:44

mothra wrote:
MilesAway wrote:
mothra wrote:
MilesAway wrote:Who the fuck is syd Barrett :roll



Just someone i castrated earlier. For demonstration purposes.

Yay :yellow

Go the dullness of death yay :beer



Now don't be silly. Castrating isn't the end of a man's life. They make great pets afterwards.

Lol, femo Nazis down the nightclub cheating on their husbands until the inevitable divorce happens to both sisters who go on to share men together on their boring gutter drugs until they turn into prunes... unite and take over!

What’s the new movement? Oh, yeh, SLUTWALK : what a complete joke :yellow

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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby MilesAway » 17 Jan 2018, 16:47

mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
mothra wrote:
johnsmith wrote:
why didn't you put that proposition to me before you cut my balls off? :purple



Where's the fun in that?


from where I'm sitting there's no fun to be had AFTER



You can keep your balls if you elect to live in the men's community, growing our food and nice flowers. We'll round up a few of you every month to service us for the continuation of the species.

Otherwise, it's balls off and house boy for you.

You don’t need non criminals in your mouth mothra: we’ve all got women in the family and we all know better :yak yak
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby MilesAway » 17 Jan 2018, 16:49

mothra wrote:Oh yes. It has begun.

What multiple broken families ... go femo Nazis yehhhhh!

You pushed a criminal society hooked on drugs because mommy was given the freedom to be a crack smoking whore!
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Re: Man receives death threats for taking his wife's name

Postby mothra » 17 Jan 2018, 19:09

Hush now Miles. It won't hurt.

.... much.
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